DON’T BE A VICTIM

If you know me, then you’re likely aware that for the first twelve years of my life I was sexually abused by a man more powerful than me (which is to say, my father).   So when I say there’s no excuse for complicity with a President who brags about his nonconsensual sex with women because he’s “a star,” be assured I mean it. His callous immorality goes on every day.  As parades of advisors goose-step their way into the new administration we see that one of them–Stephen Bannon–was once arrested for domestic violence.  He’s an anti-semite who ran Breitbart News, the site known for trafficking in racist imagery and language.  When women are harassed online, his paper blames them, telling them that they should just “log off,” since it was men who built the internet (and for that matter, civilization).  Seriously.  His paper said this. Too many women know intimately too well what the phrase “victim blaming” means.   The women who came forward during Donald’s campaign to say “he did it to me too” predictably found themselves under another attack.  A thirteen year-old girl withdrew her lawsuit against him out of threats and fear. Surrogates under his thrall admonish us with ignominious expedients, resentful and pious.   (Trump’s default invective was of course “loser.”  But his more articulate followers have devised an arsenal of insults, and will no doubt continue as they publish and spout warnings and declarations). Some attacks are aimed deeper into our pyches, innuendos of revenge, or patronizing advice to “accept things” as they are… “nothing you can do about it now.” So this is what I...